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Moms wear a lot of hats. They are a wife, a sister, a daughter, and a friend (among other things). They lead busy lives and do what they can to get through each day. While moms love their chaotic but rewarding lives, they think many thoughts. Some of those thoughts are better left unsaid (until now)! Read on to learn about five things that all moms think on a regular basis, but don’t have the guts to say!
“I miss my old life.”
Don’t feel guilty. Don’t feel selfish. Don’t feel like you are a bad mom. All moms think about their childless days here and there. Why? Well, if you’re a parent, you know the answer to this. Some days it’s really hard to raise a child. Between the crying, tantrums, evil teenage years, etc. You realize in those moments that you miss the old, carefree you that could pick up on a moment’s notice and do anything you pleased.
“I need help.”
I find myself for some reason acting like I can do it all. I can work, clean the house, run my side business, play with the baby, walk the dogs, maintain my friendships, read, watch my shows, and focus on my marriage. But, the fact is that I need help and can’t do it alone all the time. But why do I not ask for help? You got me! Maybe moms have something to prove-like we are Superwoman or something.
Did you know that 72% of moms with children over a year old work? And, 55% of moms with a child under 1 year old work. Plus, moms with a full-time job spend 13 hours a day on average working at the office, at home, or on family chores. I’m tired just thinking about it!
I think I learned that when I want something done right, I have to do it myself. I also learned that it can be so empowering to accomplish so much in one day, so the words, “I need help,” don’t come out of my mouth too often (but maybe they should)!
“Go the f*** to sleep!”
If moms (and even dads) didn’t think this, then it wouldn’t be a popular book for adults (no, really). You are not alone when it comes to the grueling task of getting your kids to go to sleep. I find myself wanting to pull my hair out when my seven-month-old rubs his eyes and cries (because he’s exhausted) and ends up fighting it. Sometimes for hours! I know what I really want to say to him, but end up biting my tongue and continue to make soothing noises to help him fall asleep.
“I don’t care.”
This is directed to the other moms you talk to that share “unique” anecdotes about their child. You don’t need to hear every detail about them getting little Bobby potty-trained, how Susie counted their Cheerios before eating them this morning, or about how Danny was walking at 9 months old.
Even though you don’t care, it’s kind and polite to listen and smile. You realize you are a part of the “mommy” sisterhood and that everyone is proud of their little creations.
“Leave me alone.”
I now know how annoying it is to be enthralled in something and get interrupted (like when I’m typing this right now and my son is crawling up my leg). In fact, the average preschooler requires their mother’s attention once every four minutes (which is equivalent to 210 times each day).
You so badly want to tell your little ones to “Bug off,” but of course you don’t. You pick them up, kiss them, and provide them with lots of love. Because that’s what great moms do.
When you are having a rough day, remember that you are not alone. Someone, somewhere in the world is thinking one of these five thoughts at any given moment; but of course, they are keeping their words to themselves!